Mixed emotions are always associated with the term “college”. Whereas an individual may fear college, one may be excited to take on all that college has to throw their way. What is it that creates the feelings of fear or excitement in the minds of individuals?
That’s an easy answer.
Movies. Books. Testimonies from an older family member or a friend.
It is human nature to build beliefs from what others say or what one sees. Refer to it as being judgmental or consider it being apprehensive. Everyone goes through this stage at least once in his or her life. Luckily for you all, this average college girl has a few misconceptions to bring to light and dismiss.
In which there is no “in” in “Drinking” (but there is, technically), your author is selflessly going through coffee withdrawal, and misconceptions are demolished.
Drinking is a Way into the “In” Crowd
You should never have to change yourself in order to fit in. Sounds cliché, right? Heard this line a million times? Well, it is a true statement. If you were not a binge drinker before college, then there is no reason to transition into one during college. In movies with a college setting, drinking until you are beyond inebriated appears to be the “in” thing to do along with going to parties.
It’s not. Here is why. Unless you were a heavy drinker before and can hold your liquor, drinking to be apart of the “In” crowd could lead to one of the most humiliating occasions of your life. Imagine drinking to the point where you have no control of your actions. The hot guy you have been eyeing all semester may not find you oh-so attractive after regurgitating on his favorite shirt. Maybe you are in shape, but surely you do not want the whole campus to know through a picture of you stripping being shared via the internet by an unknown party.
Don’t worry; I’m not your mother. By no means am I trying to tell you how to live your life. If you can drink, enjoy it, and can hold it down, then by all means do as you wish. However, if you know drinking is not your thing, then stay away from it. There are other ways to find your “in” crowd. I found mine with some of my journalism colleagues at the local lake, experiencing new cuisines, taking pictures, and locating unique, under the radar coffee shops.
Coffee is Your Energizer Bunny
Speaking of coffee, let me be one of the first to say this (and yes, coming from me it is a rather ironic statement): Coffee is not your battery life. It is not the source that keeps your body running. You do not need it to accomplish many great feats; you want it. There is a pivotal difference before your need for something and your want for something. Unfortunately, when it comes to coffee, I am currently learning this.
Anyone who really knows me knows that I was never a big coffee drinker prior to college. It was rare that I would drink it more than once a week. A few years later and into my sophomore year of college, I at least drink two cups of coffee a week; or, I did. I could tell you when the best time to go to Starbucks when avoiding a line was. I could tell you how many pumps of syrup they put in a specific drink for a specific size. If you were asking in reference to one of my favorite drinks, I could tell you the prices for each size.
A problem is what I have…had. Starting this semester I have reduced my coffee intake to once a week. I found that I received energy from activities that took me away from the daunting work my professors enjoy giving (curse the outbreak known as “The Rise of the Professors”). Going to the gym, meeting up with friends, sleeping, and even watching my favorite programs all became my new energy sources. While it is only three weeks into the semester, I know longer find a craving to have a cup of coffee in my hand as I work in the library.
You Will Live in the Library
Note that I said “work in the library”, not “live in the library”. Why is that? In order to get good grades don’t you have to live in the library? How do you not spend all your time there?
Simple: I choose not to. Throughout my high school years, I was used to achieving great grades. The beginning of my Freshman Year I, too, believed that in order to continue to excel the way I always had living at the library was necessary. So live in the library I did…for the first few weeks. There I learned there is one thing more taxing than the amount of work professors give.
Constantly going to the library.
Nothing is more tiring than “living” at the library. There are two ways constantly “living in the library” can go. First, you may find yourself excelling. Sounds great, you say. But is it going to sound so great when you realize that you’re missing out on the social scene the term “college” has always inferred? No. Remember how in prior posts I referred to balance as being a necessity in order to achieve success in college? Spending your days in the library is not balancing anything. At all. Case closed.
The other way “living in the library” can go may actually hurt your GPA in the long run. I found that while I still maintained a social life, I would become horribly distracted as I was “studying”. My self-diagnosed issue is that I cannot study in the same setting time and time again. I would get so bored of the libraries, of all the libraries on campus, that after an hour or so of studying I would distract myself.
There was only one thing to do: not live in the library. This semester I find myself studying in various places, sometimes with friends and sometimes without them. I am more at peace in different locations; less distracted. As Journalism major I find my best writings—my best works—occur in locations with various scenery.
Lockdown Your Major by Freshman Year
From Biology to Health Science to Psychology to Telecommunications (Broadcast Journalism) to Telecommunications and Political Science. What are these, you ask? Four is the number of times I have changed my major during my Freshman year. You heard me; in two semesters I managed to change my major four times. I know my primary adviser threw a party when I left to be advised by the College of Journalism and Communications advisers. Do you blame her?
Upon entering college, I always believed that I had to pick a major and stick to it. The major I applied to my university with would have to be the one I stuck with for the next four years. How wrong I was and I cannot be more thankful.
Whether you attended a private school or a public school, chances are that if you go to a university you are being exposed to more possible occupations; more ways of making a living. In college there is so much more than Science, Mathematics, and English. There are different types of sciences; there are different uses for numbers. There is more than just becoming a writer.
Take time to explore your options. I thought I wanted to be a pediatrician for the longest time. Now I find that all I want in life is to broaden the knowledge of others (whether it be through sports or politics) through an outlet such as television.
Sorority Life is the Only Life
Please note that I am in no way against sororities, nor am I trying to dissuade you from joining one. Some of my good friends are actually in sororities, which is why I can talk about this topic in the manner below.
Five of my best female friends on campus are actually in different sororities…and I never really have a chance to see them. These girls are not distancing themselves from me and our other respective friends; it just happens, especially during the beginning of the semester when Rush Week hits. When I asked these girls why they chose to join sororities (no conviction in my voice at all, mind you) they had different responses, but one response was common for all five.
They wanted to make friends quickly.
All five of these girls had joined their respective sororities during their Freshman Year. Two had come with friends from their high schools; the others did not. Sororities are known for being a quick method of making friends, along with other attributes involving benefiting the community. It was not that they did not believe they could make friends as their four years went on; it was just something they had wanted to do.
I would say I have a good number of real friends here at my university; some within sororities and fraternities, some not. Again, in no way am I anti-sororities. I just want you to know you do not need to join a sorority to make friends. Some of my good friends at my university I have met merely by sitting in class and randomly striking up a conversation; some I have met from organizations; some I have even met from professor-made groups for projects.
I would not change a thing. I love my mismatched group of friends and am happy with the life I have lived/am living which led me to them.
These are just some common misconceptions the phrase “college life” infers. There are many more, such as “Freshman Fifteen”, but the list could honestly go on forever. When it comes to college there really is nothing to be afraid of. As cliché as it may sound, you honestly just have to take one step at a time.
Only you can make these misconceptions true or false. It is your life, you know. Live it how you want, not in the shadow of others.
I’m just an average college girl with many stories; many words; many confessions.
These are just some of the confessions of an average college girl to average college girls.
…And there are many more to come.
Find falsity in the misconceptions,