Posted in College

Confession: The Number One Person to Avoid in College Is…

You–a judgmental you to be exact.

So often we read articles entitled something along the lines of “The Top 5 Type of People to Avoid in College” or “The People You Won’t Be Friends with after College”. For those of us who like to take what we read as fact, we ignore or avoid these people.

By ignoring them, we may lose the chance to make a possible for friend for life.

Even worse, we may lose the opportunity to make an impact on someone.

In which your author takes a different route on a cliche topic and you may be your biggest obstacle.

Some of the best friends I have met in my two years at college are people who I would have least expected to be friends with. A few of them think like me and a few of them don’t. Some of us share the same interests, while others have opposing interests.

Either way they are still my friends.

I have one particular group of friends that consists of five of us. We met in different classes, residence halls, and so on. Our religious beliefs are different, our majors are different, and we enjoy different things. We come from different backgrounds. We watch different television shows. Some of us enjoy sports, while others do not.

None of that matters, though.

Whenever we get together, we always have the best of times. They are honestly one of my favorite parts of surviving the school day.

But enough about that.

When I first started college, it was my “blank slate”. I wanted to make friends for life that were only like me. I wanted them to like watching sports, reading books, baking, and more interests that I have.

Unknowingly, I wanted a “Regina George and the Plastics” type of lifestyle.

I didn’t get that, though, and I couldn’t be any happier with the way college has turned out so far.

You see, the only person to be aware of in college is yourself and your ability to get in the way of creating long-lasting friendships.

So what if that boy is picking his nose, or if that girl has tons of piercings? So what if you’re a Democrat and the person next to you is a Republican?

As long as there is a mutual respect for each other and each other’s beliefs, then almost anything can be overlooked.

We have the power to be our own obstacle; our own cause of unhappiness.

We also have the power to create happiness.

We have the power to create friendships.

Don’t ignore the girl who dresses differently than you or the boy with an arm filled with tattoos.

Embrace everyone with a strong stand in your beliefs as to not be swayed.

Remember, you may be the number one person to be aware of.

With Love,
Kay

Advertisements

Author:

22 | Aspiring Journalist | Avid Blogger | Broadcast Journalism & Political Science Major | Sports Enthusiast |

36 thoughts on “Confession: The Number One Person to Avoid in College Is…

  1. College is such a great time to get rid of your preconceived stereotypes and befriend people based on something deeper. I really dislike a lot of the articles about “the 5 people you should befriend in college” or whatever…I know a lot of them are meant to be humorous but too many people take the judge mental ideals seriously. It makes me sad!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Agreed! It’s disheartening that what we read or what the media portrays is sometimes what we believe. We have to make judgments of our own, not off of others. Thank you for reading and I hope to hear from you again!

      Like

  2. Ugh I just typed out a long comment and then my phone got all weird so I don’t know if you got it or not. Basically (but more eloquently) I just wanted to voice my agreement. I think college should be avenue to let go of preconceived stereotypes and embrace people who are different from us on the surface!

    Like

  3. Staying out of your own way, so to speak, is so true! I found myself getting caught up on living and hanging out with people that I thought were the ideal but come to find out I’m a much deeper person than that and needed to reevaluate my friendships. Great insight!

    -Morgan
    How 2 Wear It … [] http://how2wearit.com

    Liked by 1 person

  4. I definitely think it’s important to go into any situation with an open mind, especially college because that’s the time for reinvention and people decide who they really want to be. Kudos to you for taking the high road.

    Liked by 1 person

  5. I totally agree with this. Reading about becoming friends with people you didn’t expect? That was totally me, and sometimes, I still look at one of my best friends and wonder, “how on Earth did we ever actually become friends?” because it doesn’t seem like we should be, we have nothing in common. But we are friends and I’m totally grateful for it.

    Laura | Ginger & Co.

    Liked by 1 person

  6. This is a great point! It is easy to judge a book by its cover and potentially miss out on a great friendship. Some of my friends are so different from me and I love it. They keep my perspective fresh and my life interesting. Great post!

    XOXO
    Marie H.
    Progression By Design

    Like

    1. Agreed! Having friends who are different than us definitely keeps life interesting! It also gives us time to reflect on perspectives they bring up that we would have never thought about! Thank you for your feedback and I hope to hear from you again!

      Like

    1. I can definitely relate to what you said! I’ve seriously met some of the most amazing people that I have encountered so far in my life. I would not trade them for the world. Thank you for reading and I hope to hear from you again!

      Like

  7. This is such a thoughtful post! I definitely agree with what you have said here. Coming into college I thought I would make friends with people who were “more like me.” And now I am so happy that I have friends with such diverse interests and experiences. Life would be boring if everyone was the same, and I have definitely been trying to not judge people by first impressions in college. Great post!

    Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s