It’s all unpredictable really: the friends you make and lose, the situations you’re in and observe, the words you say. We can have a general idea of what we want to happen, but we can’t be sure it will happen. We can have a general idea of how something will happen, but we can’t be sure it will happen that way.
That sucks, but it’s life.
In this last seven months since the beginning of my fourth and final year of college, I’ve been thrown a couple of curve balls. I’ve made so many genuine friends to the point that I actually wish I had a few more months in college to be around them. I’ve learned so many things about myself as a person that I thought I had known before. I feel wiser and stronger.
But I’ve also lost friends. I’ve said things that have hurt people and people have said things that have hurt me.
In which your author has spent a lot of nights stressing over the bad, only to realize it really ended up being the good.
But I wouldn’t change a thing for the world. I mean, I would change what I have said to hurt people because that’s not who I am; now who I want to be.
I wouldn’t, however, change things that have been done and said to me by people.
Because it’s through those experiences that I’ve formed a stronger bond with friends I already had. It’s through those experiences that I’ve learned so much more about myself and about people.
You see, in the last several months I’ve learned that people are put in your life for a reason; situations occur for different reasons.
Sometimes, these situations and these people will hurt you. They’ll make you question yourself. They’ll make you question them. It will hurt.
And then, they will bring you a new way to look at yourself; a new way to look at life. They’ll bring you stronger friendships than you ever expected to have.
Life is a learning experience. You will get through this.
So let me teach you something from personal experience. I’m not speaking to you as an adviser. I’m not speaking to you as an omniscient blogger.
I’m speaking to you as a college student—as a young person—going through life just like you are.
For every loss you take there’s always a lesson to be learned.
There’s always an opening to grow.
I’ve taken a lot of losses in these last seven months, but I bounced back. I’m going to grow.
So can you.